flerting, or not to flert.

Category: Dating and Relationships

Post 1 by nascarfan54 (Generic Zoner) on Wednesday, 06-Jan-2016 14:45:23

have a question do you admit that youhow do you feel about flerting do you like to flert? It can be fun.

Post 2 by DevilishAnthony (Just go on and agree with me. You know you want to.) on Wednesday, 06-Jan-2016 14:51:34

Oh I love to flirt, but I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable, so I tread with care. I don't wanna accidentally hit on an insecure straight guy and set off a whole bunch of emotional triggors. That said, if I find a guy who is interested, hell yes, I'll flirt and more. I like it when people flirt with me as well. I'll flirt with the ladies somewhat, but it's all in fun. Most any lady here by now knows that I don't swing that way, but it's still amusing. So what about you? Are you only interested in women or do you go both ways. You can write me privately, if you'd rather, or just ignore my question completely.

Post 3 by nascarfan54 (Generic Zoner) on Wednesday, 06-Jan-2016 14:58:51

Wow, kind of messed up that first post. ment to say how you feel about flerting? and do you admit that you love to flert? I admit that I don't mind it as long as both parties are cool with it. Can be lots of fun.

Post 4 by nascarfan54 (Generic Zoner) on Wednesday, 06-Jan-2016 15:00:51

mainly interested in women.

Post 5 by forereel (Just posting.) on Wednesday, 06-Jan-2016 17:09:10

I don't mind it directed to me, but I'm careful who I direct it to.
I don't wish anyone to feel uncomfortable, or threaten.
When I'm serious, I say so, but privately.
All in fun, it makes me laugh mostly on here.

Post 6 by LeoGuardian (You mean there is something outside of this room with my computer in it?) on Wednesday, 06-Jan-2016 17:28:42

I'd caution any man against it online. If she says you crossed the line, you're guilty before proven innocent.
Doing so online also removes the tone of voice and other factors, even we who can't see the body language, can pick up on.
But I've never tried flirting in text format. As I'm a married man under the traditionalist model, this would be unwise for me, even if I did want to.

Post 7 by VioletBlue (Help me, I'm stuck to my chair!) on Wednesday, 06-Jan-2016 17:53:56

Flirting is rather like making small talk, for me. I am not good at either, not sure I know how to do it. And I have no reason to flirt.

Post 8 by VioletBlue (Help me, I'm stuck to my chair!) on Wednesday, 06-Jan-2016 17:55:10

And I meant to add that I guess I don't like being flirted with, because I never quite know how to respond to it, what to say. I'm just boring. *grin*

Post 9 by DevilishAnthony (Just go on and agree with me. You know you want to.) on Wednesday, 06-Jan-2016 22:18:03

I have to be a bit careful, since I'm a bit flirty by nature. A few guys over the years have thought I was serious, when I was just having a bit of playful banter. I love men, and if I'm at all comfortable, a bit of flirting comes natural to me. My problem is that I can usually find at least some little something attractive in almost any guy. Voice and humor are pretty high on the list of attractions for me. Body type is only very slightly lower. A guy who can write and articulate well is also a huge plus.
Most women are really turned off by a guy being in a horny frenzy. It usually strikes them as desperate and creepy, but honestly, it kind of turns me on. Maybe not the makings of a long term relationship, but if the guy is so horny he can't stand it, I'm all about helping him get off. Yummy. I do tend to enjoy the straitish men, (those who will lie back and let another man please them, but aren't nearly as in to pleasing another man themselves.) Probably just because this is about all I've experienced. Anyway, it is what it is. But sure, I'll flirt easily enough, and I love talking about sex and turn-ons. even if I'm not in to the same things that the other guy is in to, his excitement will usually get me going.

Post 10 by nascarfan54 (Generic Zoner) on Thursday, 07-Jan-2016 4:29:46

Hi likre when a woman wants to flert and I don't mind if she lets me.

Post 11 by Remy (I've now got the silver prolific poster award! wahoo!) on Thursday, 07-Jan-2016 16:00:29

As a self-depricating and married 33 year old who hasn't drawn the attention of another woman below fifty in years, it would be kind of nice to have someone my own age flirt with me a bit. That said, I've learned many valuable lessons about flirting while in a relationship, and while I'd certainly smile and be ever-so nice and appreciative, I'd be very wairy about flirting back, even in fun.

Post 12 by chelslicious (like it or not, I'm gonna say what I mean. all the time.) on Thursday, 07-Jan-2016 16:29:41

My personality is such that, when I'm comfortable, I can be flirty. However, I'm careful who my flirtatiousness is directed towards, because I never wanna cause anyone to think something is true that isn't.

Post 13 by forereel (Just posting.) on Thursday, 07-Jan-2016 19:04:49

Married men should never forget to flirt with their wives. Smile.

Post 14 by LeoGuardian (You mean there is something outside of this room with my computer in it?) on Thursday, 07-Jan-2016 19:17:23

I agree Wayne.

Post 15 by chelslicious (like it or not, I'm gonna say what I mean. all the time.) on Thursday, 07-Jan-2016 19:33:15

Good point Wayne.

Post 16 by Remy (I've now got the silver prolific poster award! wahoo!) on Thursday, 07-Jan-2016 20:34:48

Absolutely.

Post 17 by LeoGuardian (You mean there is something outside of this room with my computer in it?) on Friday, 08-Jan-2016 10:36:56

It's really not that hard, either. They got an entire industry of books trying to tell you how to keep this alive or that alive. But just do nice things for Her perpetually, it's the little stuff that adds up. Forget the marriage book industrial complex bs.

Post 18 by Meglet (I just keep on posting!) on Friday, 08-Jan-2016 23:05:31

Do nice things for him, too. There is this idea that women need a steady stream of compliments and pampering to be "kept". I think guys appreciate that once in awhile. It should be as 50/50 as is natural for the relationship.

Post 19 by nascarfan54 (Generic Zoner) on Saturday, 09-Jan-2016 4:36:53

Hi, I know for me it doesn't take much to make me happy in a relationship. I like just to enjoy the little things in a relationship. I don't mind a nice compliment or if I feel both ar comfortable don't mind giving a nice compliment.

Post 20 by DevilishAnthony (Just go on and agree with me. You know you want to.) on Saturday, 09-Jan-2016 4:52:17

If one knows their partner and knows the things that make that partner happy or unhappy, it should be pretty easy really. It should also be 50 50 though. When one goes out of the way to make the other happy, and the favor is never returned, that's when the resentment sets in. We all need reassurance and compliments on some level or another, and it's even better when these things are given by the one who should matter to you the most.

Post 21 by kcirehs (Veteran Zoner) on Friday, 06-Jan-2017 0:10:54

I think the last post makes a good point.

Post 22 by Jack Off Jill (why the hell am I posting in the first place?) on Friday, 06-Jan-2017 9:56:16

agreed, even in long relationships I think it's important to flirt with your partner. let them kknow they still have the A game, like they did when you were first dating.
I love to flirt, but I've learned a big lesson about flirting. So I refrain from flirting in serious relationships.
If I'm single I'll flirt with whomever I want, it's my free country.

Post 23 by lalady (This site is so "educational") on Friday, 06-Jan-2017 12:56:08

I love to flirt and to be flirted with, but not with married or unavailable men. Likewise, I do not flirt if I am not available. But when I am available, flirting is a natural for me, even though sometimes I tend to be either shy or reserved. I agree with others that have posted that it is important for married people to continue to flirt and give the message often that their partner is sexy and appealing.

Post 24 by A Beautiful Mistake (Generic Zoner) on Friday, 06-Jan-2017 14:44:48

it's so difficult to flirt online because some people mistake being nice as flirting. Personally, I'm alittle flirty by nature, but it's usually very innocent.

Post 25 by Jack Off Jill (why the hell am I posting in the first place?) on Friday, 06-Jan-2017 15:30:49

I never mess with married men either, hate being a homewrekcer. would never and will never be a home wrecker.

Post 26 by DevilishAnthony (Just go on and agree with me. You know you want to.) on Friday, 06-Jan-2017 18:43:45

ever had someone flirt with you, so you flirted back. They got really in to it, then suddenly blocked or ignored you? People are just ...

Post 27 by Yvaine (Zone BBS Addict) on Friday, 06-Jan-2017 22:49:49

I think it's far more intimate flirting in public. Be able to see anything detectable by your
vision. While at the same time knowing it's you they're looking at instead of your
significant other. Keep it innocent because we all know those who over do it.

Post 28 by Shepherdwolf (I've now got the bronze prolific poster award! now going for the silver award!) on Friday, 06-Jan-2017 23:35:19

A little flirting is fine, I think. Just don't ham it up, that's how I look at it.
Some people are really, really good at it. Some people are about as delicate as a freight train.
I almost never flirt until I get really comfortable with someone, or unless they're really flirtatious to begin with. Even then, if they're a flirt but they're in a relationship, I consciously watch my step. I absolutely do not want to tread that ground.

Post 29 by rdfreak (THE ONE AND ONLY TRUE-BLUE KANGA-KICKIN AUSIE) on Tuesday, 10-Jan-2017 21:24:40

flurtting is pointless IMO and I've always felt that. However, I have found myself doing it a bit more over the past several years for some reason. Lol
I don't like it being directed at me though unless the person actually is attracted to me for real.